Yesterday was a gorgeous, sunny autumn day so Aunty Jo, Harvey and I went for a walk into town where he got to meet 'aunty' Jodie who was teaching a class - sometimes baby smooches have to come first so class was disrupted. I think the ladies understood.
Today H donned his new jumper that was made by 'aunty' Trash.
It turns out that it's comfy enough to snooze in.....
Not much sewing around here for the last few days but I did venture out to a few PWS in the last week. We had a lovely visit with 'aunty' Mez in her shop. Since it's my go to store it seems right that it was Harvey's first. He didn't buy much but he sure got wonderful, squishy cuddles. Imagine if we all got that at our local patchwork shop... ;o)
I visited another store and enquired about their casual stitching afternoons and this is what has perplexed me because I have become one of 'those' people. At 11.07am on April the 3rd this year, I was a daughter, sister, friend and girlfriend but at 11.08am, I became a mother. I went from being someone who at times had very little patience for screechy kids and all the sticky mess that accompanies them. Don't get me wrong, I liked kids, I'd even been one once but now it's different. Now I have one of my own.
The issue that has bent my mind is that my enquiry about this casual group had me asking if I could bring my baby and the answer was a big, fat NO. I get there are reasons for it, others are trying to get away from their own kids and grandkids. I get it. But it doesn't mean it doesn't piss me off and, well, offend me.
I guess a big part of my issue is it means I can't go and play. It would be perfectly fine with me if it was a class but it's not, it's supposed to be just crafters crafting their own thing so how does a wee baby tucked under the table create a problem?
Maybe it was a shock because it's a huge contrast to the wonderful craft wenches that I meet with once a month. Lovely ladies who couldn't wait to meet my little man and literally embraced him.
Then again, maybe I needed to come to terms with the fact that now I am a mother, my world has changed dramatically and Harvey has to come first and many, many things over the next 20 years and beyond are going to be sacrificed by me, for him. I'm typing this one handed as he's not settling this evening so cuddles is the only way to have some quiet.
Righto, that's off my chest. Time for a feed and wonderful baby smells to remind me of why crafting aint really that important.
Sew well lovelies,
Ab x
He's getting so big Abs...and such a beautiful face!!
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Stupid bloody shop. Harvey can come join my crafting group any day and if you promise to behave he can bring you as well.
ReplyDeleteIt is indeed a different world.
BTW - YAY! It fits.
Cyber cuddles aren't doing it for me. Two days to go.
ReplyDeleteDumb shop. Definitely their loss.
Keep looking for a group or start one.
ReplyDeleteWhen I had my young children ( three ) I took the youngest sewing every Monday and all three in school holidays.
Kids are part of our lives and should be.....
Christine
I agree with Trash, stupid bloody shop!! I guess I could understand toddlers being banned, but a baby for goodness sake, what's he gonna do...run amok???
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Just adorable, both baby and jumper!
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness, he is delicious. Maybe we should make our craft night every week so we can have more cuddles more often. Their loss. xx
ReplyDeleteIll trade you (not that youll take me up) on a magnitudinal amount of an evenings' worth at least of baby smells, yes even THAT, for a craft evening at any place on the planet of your choosing. Serious here, x
ReplyDeleteOh Harvey you are so handsome in your lovely jumper. Lots hugz Aunty Maria.
ReplyDeleteAbbe you could come and join my group, also my DD2's group welcomes babes and when they get a little older have a crache. I agree with one of the ladies, if you cannot find a group start one of your own.
oh lucky Harvey has so many special Aunties. Gee, I haven't had a baby cuddle for far too long, all that talk has made me a bit jealous ;)
ReplyDeletefirst of all he is gorgeous!!! and so big! how does the time go so fast for these little ones! i totally get that not being able to bring your little one was a bummer...i know that i would be pretty un inclined to go somewhere that would not let me bring my kids!!!
ReplyDeleteperhaps you need to start a mums and bubs group like they have at the movies these days. some people just want a little quiet time when they go out and there is nothing wrong with that...
ReplyDeleteI know just what you're going through. When Brian was born I actually gave up crafting and sewing and just got back into it a few years ago. But at least you still have your monthly craft wenches! :0)
ReplyDeleteI want to come over and squeeze and smooch on him
ReplyDeleteSounds like lots of local 'aunties' are around to help you get your craft on.
ReplyDeleteI agree with everyone else: dumb shop!!!
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You can come here any day and stitch with me!!! I am happy to have him here and dish out as many cuddles as required.
ReplyDeleteI think is an official member of our craft group now anyway so he needs to come along and keep modelling those gorgeous outfits.
We were so jealous when Jodie said you visited. Should have kept driving for a sew along at Sewjourn.
ReplyDeleteHello, I found your blog through The Textured Leaf. I just wanted to say, having been one of "those people" for quite a while, I've realized that a baby is a good test for what kind of people you're dealing with. You probably wouldn't have liked that group, with or without a baby.
ReplyDeleteyour baby is gorgeous! i think he is going to be a male model definitely! :) bummer about the group - but i have had the same trouble finding somewhere (it only gets harder as they hit walking age!!! then everything looks exciting - it seems that old ladies keep lots of interesting things in their bags - pills, glasses, pins) he he. we need a mummy's crafty group
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I guess you'll just have to find a "Harvey Welcome" group to sew with. Keep looking.
ReplyDeleteI love him in Trash's jumper!
Their loss! Our stitch and bitch got me back into creating stuff. It is a group of like minded mums looking for some time out from the littles. But breast fed bubs were welcome, or any bubs for that matter. Once the bubs could talk, they were not welcome, because they could go home and tell the dads what we were bitching about :) I met Bianca at stitch and bitch :)
ReplyDeleteI agree with all the other comments -p what a stupid shop. It's not like he's going to be running round causing havoc. He is gorgeous and has really grown.
ReplyDeletea lot of places are like that with children- and honestly some babies cry a LOT (mine did and he rarely slept)!!! and it's very upsetting and distracting for some... and hard to say yes to one mum and no to another based on their child's behaviour- so best just to say no! don't take it personally- once their not babies, kids aren't welcome in loads of places full stop! guess i'm getting used to it now...
ReplyDeleteYour world changes forever when that baby appears! It's so cliche but hard to imagine how much until it actually happens.
ReplyDeleteAnd once it has happened it's hard to understand why the rest of the world doesn't revolve around your baby the way you do. I'm feeling your pain!
It's such hard work but you are doing an amazing job! Keep it up and can't wait for my first cuddle ... x
...it is a bit of a surprise when you go to the first place that won't welcome your very own special beautiful baby with open arms... but I do understand that the group is for ladies who seek some downtime from their own and others kids... Harvey is little and divine and I am sure you must have felt very hurt....however, one day you may be one of those girls who only have those couple of hours of a group meeting to yourself to relax and enjoy your craft... you might be lucky enough to have family who will support you in that way or like me have to fight tooth and nail to get hubby to pick up the slack and let me out to be alone for a small window in an incredibly busy life as a Mum... where honestly as much as I adore my children, I have no desire to be around any children for those delicious couple of hard won self-nurturing hours... but I do really understand how it would have stung... hugs xx
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